Thoughts

A Part of Me

Anyone that obsessed with patriotism has serious problems. Both extreme patriotism and nationalism are wack as fuck. They mostly just lead to racism and racism is the root cause of many of the worst things one group of people justifies doing to another group of people. Sexism, classism, religious fundamentalism, misogyny and homophobia have all caused their share of evil in the world, but I think racism is the worst. Racism is the thing I hate most about people. Racism is what makes people most hateful. I’d like to think people are better than that but really I’m not so sure. Sometimes I don’t think they are, I don’t think they ever can be, and I don’t think they will ever rise above. There’s also too much corruption, deception, hypocrisy, greed and selfishness in the human heart. There’s a part of me that thinks people will always kind of suck. Maybe people are more bad than they are good and maybe we’ve just got to accept that. It’s a tough pill to swallow, regardless of whether it’s a red pill or blue. No side is better and no side can win. Maybe that’s life. Maybe that’s just how things are. Maybe it’s all mostly worthless. But for some reason I still fucking care and I still want things to be better. I still think we should fight for a better world, even if it’s impossible. I don’t know why but no matter what I still think we’ve got to try. Because I just can’t believe that none of this matters and that it’s all a wash. Human beings need each other but they hate each other and they don’t know how to get along. Therein lies the problem.

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Family

A Year Ago Today

A year ago today and my love for Asha has only increased. In these pictures she’s nine months old, now she’s 20 months old, she’s still amazing and she’s still cute. It’s incredible though how much she’s changed. She’s growing right before our eyes. Every day is a new surprise. Raising Asha, loving her and taking care of her is a blessing. I am so lucky. Every day I thank the universe for Asha.

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Video

Everybody Wants

Yesterday Asha ran freely on sidewalks discovering the neighbourhood and had a wonderful time. Then she found a rain puddle and ran through it splashing and jumping and executing many swift small steps. She was transfixed. She kept this up for a while until I had to stop her as she wasn’t wearing rain boots and I didn’t want her feet to get drenched. Asha would’ve played in that puddle all day if I had let her. She is a water child, Asha loves the rain, she runs and skips and smiles and squeals, it doesn’t bother her at all. The rain makes her happy. Looks like we moved to the right city. When they said it rains a lot in Vancouver they weren’t kidding. But we can’t have all this lush greenery without it, all these tall trees, perfect hedges, mineral-rich soil and flowers. Sunny days are much more appreciated when they come. Even if all this rain is a bit gloomy and a little sad, it’s a necessary tradeoff, for everybody wants happiness, no one wants pain, but you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain.

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Family

This is the Love

I have such an intensity of love for Asha. I love being with her and hanging out with her, she is such a pleasure, she is just the best. I am so incredibly fortunate to have such a beautiful sweet adorable daughter. And to think I once never wanted to have kids. I can’t imagine my life without Asha and I don’t know how I ever thought I was fulfilled and happy before I had her. To anyone who’s on the fence about having kids, I have two words for you: Do it. If you don’t, you’ll always regret that you never did. Even if you can’t have kids naturally, you can always foster or adopt. It doesn’t matter whether the kid is biologically yours or not. Just loving and caring for someone other than yourself is it. Life is about love, it’s why we are here, it’s what we were born to do. If you don’t experience this, a part of your soul will remain vague and empty and dark, and you will never fully live. I think being a mother is the highest form of love, it is the deepest, the most unconditional and the most pure. I want everyone to know a love like this. For it is this love that justifies humanity itself and is the ultimate refutation against animosity, hostility, horror and hate.

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Advice

Choose Love

Be nice to each other, forgive each other, love each other, and be kind. The world could use more love and kindness. The world is a sad and dark and lonely place for many, and the only way we can change that is if we all try harder. We must come together, we must all do our part to put forth a concerted effort to tip the balance. Evil is strong and evil will win but only if we let it. So be nice to each other, choose love, and be kind.

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Dream

New Beginnings

We got the house. I’m so fucking excited. Goodbye Los Angeles hello Vancouver. So long America it’s been cool but we’re going home we got work to do. A thousand thank yous to everyone for wishing us well and rooting for us, your love and support means the world. Extra special thanks to Dylan’s amazing business partner Dave and Dylan’s remarkable best friend Devon, both of whom wrote us beautiful recommendation letters, it was these things specifically that made this work. I can’t believe we got the place, it’s so perfect I almost don’t think this is real life. It’s like a fairytale happening in real time. It hardly seems possible. Especially now too, with all the fucked up stuff with this shit show of a year. 2020 man, it’s been such a rough ride. Finally something good happened. Amazing actually. This house is magic. I already see us thriving.

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Thoughts

Real Love

Real love is not about making a connection but sustaining it. Real love takes work. The more you work and the harder you work, the better and stronger your love will be. Honour yourselves, honour each other, and honour the fact that it’s the work that makes love real.

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Event

Fifteen

We’re celebrating 15 years together, happy anniversary to my one true love. Blessed to spend this life with you, thank you for putting up with me, thank you for always having my back, thank you for all that you do, and thank you especially for inspiring me every day to be a better person. This picture was taken a year and a half ago at Huntington Botanical Gardens when Asha was a month old. I’m so thankful for you, I’m grateful for our family, and I love you both the most always.

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Dialogue

Choosing to Live

No one is perfect. We don’t always do the best thing or the right thing. We sometimes do and say hurtful things. But we cannot erase the past. We can only confess what happened and admit to being wrong. We can ask for forgiveness and try to act differently in the future. The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history. Accept that they happened. Accept that it hurt and that it may still hurt. Acknowledge failure and ask for forgiveness. Love does not keep a record of wrongs, love does not keep score. We can’t erase the past but we can accept it as history. We can choose to live today free from the failures of yesterday through forgiveness. Forgiveness is the way of love. It is the choice to show mercy.

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Thoughts

Wearing Masks

The main reason public face maskwearing is so important with Covid-19 has to do with the prevalence of asymptomatic carriers who can still spread the virus to others. This fact makes it difficult to suppress transmission in the community, but if everybody is wearing face masks, that means infected and asymptomatic people are also wearing masks, which can help reduce the amount of virus released into the environment potentially causing infections. So please mask up kids. Our friend Bethany makes these dope handprinted masks that are available at her awesome online shops Well Done Goods and Cyberoptix.

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