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The Best in Me

This was my first time really getting and decorating a tree. Not too shabs, considering. I also spent days hanging lights and decorations and making changes. Got compliments from the neighbours as well as a forceful and sobering lecture from the husband who was outraged by my dodgy outdoor electrical decisions. This year still I did pretty great with both Halloween and Christmas. Asha is my great motivation. I’ve always loved special days but never could get my shit together. With Asha, I get a lot more done well and on time. The girl brings out the best in me. Goodbye, 2023. Let’s go, 2024.

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Shower Me With Love

It’s the first of my two birthdays and it’s also Thanksgiving in Canada, so Thanksgiving is the day all of Canada celebrates me and is thankful that I was born. It’s my birthday again on October 12. The reason I have two birthdays is so anyone who forgets to shower me with love and affection today can correct the error in four days. Anyway, so yeah. Happy Birthday to me! Happy Thanksgiving, Canada!

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We Are So Lucky

Hope your birthday was special and fun, celebrating you was awesome. Because you’re just about the best there is. Because despite my perfection I know sometimes I can be a lot and Asha too. Because although we know you are lucky to have us we also know the reverse is true: We are so lucky to have you. You’re an excellent human. Happy birthday, Dylan! We love you!

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I Think She Smiled

Happy birthday to one of my favourite kid sisters and one of the world’s best persons. Souda, you’re about as fantastic as a human can get. Thank you for being just all around great. The first time Asha ever smiled, I think she smiled at you. That’s how wonderful you are. I salute you and I love you, even though I’m still mad you didn’t fly across the entire country to celebrate your birthday with me lol.

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All My Love

Shoutout to Asha, my beautiful girl, thanks for making me your mom. There’s nothing I would rather do than to keep loving and taking care of you. Happy Mother’s Day to me and to all mothers. Keep up the good work. Dylan was on the road yesterday so Mother’s Day for me is today. It’s my first day off since forever and I’m thrilled. I don’t know where to start, I almost don’t even know what to do. Let the games begin. One, two, three, fun! All my love to everyone.

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Adding to the Measure

I always loved dogs but I thought I hated kids. Now I know that the best things in life are dogs and kids. Especially if the kid is Asha, especially if the dog is Daisy. With a very special shoutout to Feather, who does more than her share of adding to the measure of why dogs are terrific, despite not being pictured.

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Making a Makeup Artist

Asha got so many presents on her birthday that she didn’t even finish opening them all at her party or read all the cards. Asha got so many amazing gifts it was overwhelming and I was as excited as she was. Of all the gifts, the Townley Girl Barbie Beauty Vanity Set With Light-Up Mirror was the big winner. It put her in a trance. She gazed at it like it was the Ark of the Covenant, got up as if hypnotized and with a slow grandeur walked off into the night. I was all like girl where are you going with that. Once she remembered where she was, Asha and her friends gathered around and all did each other’s makeup. They came up with some pretty great looks. That makeup set was such a mike drop. To this day Asha is obsessed. She’s always off over at her Frozen Vanity quietly carefully crafting her look. I think we have a little makeup artist in the making. Val Garland would totally give her a ding dong.

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All Hope Abandon

All hope abandon, ye who are not microbladed. She done finally done had herses. And just like that, eyebrows. This is the first time I’ve had eyebrows in 27 years. Girl, if I had known microblading was an option, I would’ve done this ages ago, I mean, do I not look good. Yet another demonstration of why it’s sad and tragic I didn’t have a mom or an older sister or like a drag mother, some kind of guiding light, to help me ably bravely face the rigours of style, beauty, makeup and art. (Actually, scratch the drag mother part, since a drag queen would’ve encouraged the eyebrow shaving lol). More seriously though, I really did have to learn everything the hard way. Yet another demonstration of why Asha is so fortunate to have me, to care for her, to care about her, to help her and to guide her, the whole way, and I will do so doggedly, continuously, happily, with intention and skill. I’ll always care and I always will. It’s sad and tragic I never got to have that, but, in being for Asha what I missed out on having for myself, I kind of get to be so fortunate too, because being is as good as having, and giving is as good as getting, maybe it’s better.

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I Still Think

So, Asha has intermittent exotropia, also called wandering eye, which is a type of strabismus (eye misalignment) in which the eyes drift out from time to time. Asha‘s case is a little unique in that she hasn’t had this problem since birth, or, at least, we didn’t notice it until recently, also, it’s not just in one eye, but both eyes. She’s been twice to see an eye specialist and the only way to fix it is through surgery. The doctor will help us decide in two months whether surgery is advised. Thankfully, here in Canada, the surgery is covered. The doctor said surgery is typically a good idea, especially at Asha’s age, because there are a lot of benefits and corrections when young tend to stick. Here is Asha doing a quick photoshoot in the bathroom after one of her appointments with the ophthalmologist. Wandering eyes or no, I still think she’s perfect and sweet and gorgeous.

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Angel Cupcake

Can’t believe our angel cupcake turns 4 soon, I blinked and the years disappeared. Asha is terribly excited about her birthday. For the cake and overall theme, she can’t decide between Skye, Elsa, Wednesday, mermaids, rainbows or unicorns. I made Asha an Amazon Wish List so have a look if you want to get her a gift. Asha loves birthdays and shopping and presents, to the point of delirium. In these regards, I have no idea who she resembles.

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For She Doth Looketh

Recently Asha got her first haircut. Dylan was hoping to go full Samson on her, such that all Asha’s strength and beauty would come from her hair, and her locks would ne’er be shorn, but Asha really wanted a haircut, so I inquired at a salon and the lady said she could do it then and there. It was so sudden, I wasn’t prepared, but we went ahead and Asha was a huge hit, she was preternaturally sweet and calm and still. Asha loves the haircut, everybody loves it, for she doth looketh cute as yonder button.

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Happy Many Days

Happy many days after Valentine’s Day to my favourite Player 2. I’m outlandishly preposterously late but what else is new. Still thankful and so glad I get to play the game with you. You are the shit, too legit to quit and I am here for it. Thanks for all you are, thank you for all you do. I love you. Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Winter Concert Potluck

Asha’s last day of school was on Wednesday and the following morning we had a Winter Concert Potluck. Dylan sadly couldn’t be there but auntie Ngoc and auntie Natasha and uncle Jan all came through. Asha calls Jan uncle daddy and she talks about him a lot. The kids performed some special songs with varying degrees of success. All of it was precious.

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