Event

Winter Concert Potluck

Asha’s last day of school was on Wednesday and the following morning we had a Winter Concert Potluck. Dylan sadly couldn’t be there but auntie Ngoc and auntie Natasha and uncle Jan all came through. Asha calls Jan uncle daddy and she talks about him a lot. The kids performed some special songs with varying degrees of success. All of it was precious.

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Film

Weird

Weird: The Al Yankovic Story is very funny, Eric Appel and “Weird Al” did a great job. Daniel Radcliffe is fine as Alfred “Weird Al” Yankovic. Evan Rachel Wood is so good as Madonna I didn’t even know it was her. Rainn Wilson is lovable as Dr. Demento. Toby Huss almost steals the whole show as Nick Yankovic, Al’s enraged accordion-hating factory worker father. Julianne Nicholson is charming as Mary Yankovic, Al’s estranged mother. Thomas Lennon is fun as the accordion salesman and Arturo Castro is adorable as Pablo Escobar. It was nice to see Quinta Brunson even though her Oprah Winfrey lacked spark. “Weird Al” Yankovic was enjoyable as Tony Scotti and Jack Black was gorgeous as Wolfman Jack. I think Jack Black is one of the funniest people in the world. He just has to show up and you’re already laughing. An amusing, cheeky, ridiculous movie. We loved it.

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Sharing

Here I Thought For Sure

Potty training is not going well. I thought Asha would start using the toilet effortlessly by age 2. Now she’s almost 4 and she’s still in diapers. What the hell. The girl doesn’t want to go potty. She keeps saying tomorrow. I think she’s resisting because she knows I want her to use it so she doesn’t want to use it. She’s quite oppositional defiant. She doesn’t like being told what to do. I wonder who she got that from. Good thing she’s gorgeous and I love her. I’ve got to figure something out though I don’t wanna be changing her diapers until she’s 30. Here I thought for sure I’d be absolutely raising a genius. Guess that’s what I get for hubris.

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Advice

Things to Remember

The past cannot be changed. Opinions do not define your reality. Everyone’s journey is different. Things get better with time. Judgments reveal character. Overthinking leads to frustration. Happiness is found within. Positive thoughts create positive change. Smiles are contagious. Kindness is free. What goes around comes around. You only fail if you quit.

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Thoughts

The Magic is You

Once you get to a certain point in your life, people start trying to tell you that magic isn’t real. These people are trying to quell your sense of wonder at the majesty of the world, and you mustn’t let them. Because magic happens all the time. Whenever you see something utterly beautiful in nature, and you take the time to notice it, it’s magic. When you recognize the love you have to give and the love you receive, it’s magic. Magic is in the look and touch and nearness of someone who matters to you. It’s magic even when something sad or terrible happens, because there is magic in the very fact that you care, and that you’re still there. Magic happens when you stand up for what matters. Magic happens when you don’t let anything ever beat you, no matter what. Magic happens when you are part of the force of love. It’s magic, no matter how dim the hope, how slim the chances, how great the cost. Magic happens every time you give, every time you love, and every time that you are strong. The magic only stops when you let it. The magic is in you and it is all around you. Because the magic is you.

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Event

Twice

Hi, it’s my birthday and it’s also Thanksgiving long weekend in Canada. Thanksgiving is the day all of Canada is thankful I was born lol. It’s my birthday again in four days, remember, I have 2 birthdays. The reason for the 2 birthdays is to give everyone twice the chance to celebrate me. Ha ha. Yay. I’m so lucky. Happy birthdays to me!

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Sharing

We Go Well Together

One of the main reasons Dylan and I go well together is we’re both black sheep types. People tend to love or hate us, there is no middle ground. Certain members of Dylan’s family haven’t always supported him or approved of his choices. They routinely lecture, nag and criticize him, no matter how hard he works and regardless of his successes. His aunt Marjorie took a special disliking to Dylan for years and this dislike extended to myself. We’d both be criticized or ridiculed for all manner of stuff. For example, we used to be strict vegans but we also smoked. Dylan’s family considered these details to be hypocritical and ridiculous. At holiday meals, if Dylan or I asked for something to be passed to us, aunt Marjorie would say, “The vegan smokers want potatoes,” or, “Here’s your vegan smoker salt.” “We all have our flaws and imperfections,” I said. “Yours is being an extremely unforgiving, self-righteous, cold and judgmental cunt.” This comment was not received well. And, of course, I said no such thing, but maybe I should have. Maybe I should have. By the way, we no longer smoke and we are no longer vegans.

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Family

The Greatest Daughter

It seems I missed posting about National Daughters Day on Sunday so apparently I’m posting about it on National Sons Day instead lol. Better late than never, as they say, and besides, in my opinion, every day is Daughters Day; I think Asha is worth celebrating continuously. I literally have the best kid of all time, absolutely the greatest daughter ever. Even though she’s a (three)nagar now [in other words, often exasperating and impossible] I love her to the moon and back and more. I wouldn’t trade her for the world.

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Thoughts

There is a Darkness

There is a darkness inside each of us, that part of ourselves that is irreparably damaged by the hardness of life. We are what we are because of this darkness, or perhaps in spite of it. Some use darkness as a shield to hide behind, others as an excuse to behave unconscionably. But darkness is simply a part of the whole, neither good nor evil, unless you make it so.

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